Yes, it's the always wondering if that person will do it again, that's something that one has to live with, if they choose to stay.
Race you Jak!!!!! I may be little but I'm fast!
That tennis ball thing is real and I can't take credit for it. Folks have been doing it for years. As far as me being a chick magnet,Im a geezer not dead. I see the chicks lookin my way when I turn my bingo cards in.
An affair could last 6 months, or one night...
I love my wife-she loves me-but we are "people"...... imperfect humans who can do irrational things in our lives that are mistakes.
IF I doubted that my wife loved me- I might worry about about a "mistake" in judgement that could happen.
If it did happen-I know..."bottom line" she loves me-and just messed up.
You see I think where we differ is I believe that love conquers all-true love (that you are defending if I understand your points) will conquer the bad judgement, the bad mistake of an affair.
As I said-for you and others an affair would be a deal breaker-not for me, not for my wife...we would not stay together for our kids, or money....it would be because of our true love-but realizing we are not perfect humans, we can err...even in marriage.
Neither of us has cheated in 40 years-but if it had happened-we would still have made it to "40 Years"
She is the love of my llife and I could forgive her anything.
Work in Progress!
Btw, I commend you for being faithful to your wife and happy 40th.
I understand Ken's points. When you live with someone and love them, you can't just shut that love off because of the mistake of a weak moment. Things may not be the same but if the mistake is not repeated you can work through it and in time it would get better. I haven't had to deal with that issue and I know it would not be easy but I'm not the type to give up on a relationship (or a friend) easily).
Sure everyone should be totally committed to their mate-their should be no reason for transgressions-but we are not all "tall angels".
Infactuations, lapses of morals, anger, fear, lust-all creep into relationships and some just do not handle them well....it causes problems and some people resolve them and then they move on.
I wish we were all "tall angels" but we are not...matter of fact most are not even close... but humans are not expected to be angels.
Work in Progress!
I'm a tall angel btw
I know one thing, if love is sincere in marriage is not what we do not talk.I know many people who say that their relationship is good.
True love may be invisible to get to know the signals.
And one more thing ...
I'll Remember You!!!
Well I'm short but I would never call myself an angel....I'd have to live up to it. Both my husband and I have plenty of faults and make a lot of mistakes but we have always gotten through it and we have pride in that...and of course love each other enough.