Who's more at fault for the failure of Elvis' Marriage

[TotallyInsane]

A very fair response Matt. I wish I could be that fair because I really think you might be on to something. However...... if you know me at all you what I'm going to say, so I'll keep my lips zipped. Who in their right mind leaves Elvis????

We did have an authority speak on post #20 - but the responses kept coming!!

[debtdbruno]

Pity he din't do that autobiography

Dare say he wouldn't have indulged our curiosity to that extent though

[Diane]

No we wouldn't have gotten the responses from Elvis. He in his own way was much more respectful of Priscilla than she was of him.

[elvislina]

Well as i know.it is always boths fault when a fight begin or something happends. But i am not so good in this with relationship yet so i shouldnt say anything lol. But From my eyes i know people need to become like best friends before begin a relationship so they know how to keep living around each other. but right Elvis had a tough life. its not so easy to live with someone when so much good looking girls running after him. i think he somehow doesnt wanna act nasty to the others just because he was a married man. But as someone learn me. if you ever meet someone you love you will always meeting someone some look more better than this person. but you still need to focus on the women/man you love. i think when lots of girls coming in to your life that might be the reason relationship got destroyed because few women can become to pushy and doesnt care about people being married. i think Real love doesnt let someone going beetween they both. thats my opinion

By the way if you leave someone just because of fights then people need to think again. to keep a relationship alive people need to talking out with each other good and let each other know what they been doing and doesnt hide things from their lover. my sis and her husband have been married since 1998 and still is but thats because they dont let anything coming beetween they and they always talking things out. They dont leave each other either because of real reasons too. because they know how important it is to let your yes mean yes when you got married too.

But i dont judge or blame Elvis and Priscilla because to be a big famous star isn´t so much easier to keep the love alive

[Albert]

First of all, who were to blame that they were married in the first place (besides Elvis and Priscilla)? What parent allows his/her 14 year old daughter to date (in a strange, not native country) to date a superstar and hang out with a bunch of soldiers (stationed thousands of miles from home)? And after Elvis left, they allowed their daughter to keep in contact?! And even more bizarre, the let her be flown in to the US to please the king of Rock 'n Roll and let her grow up there to become his queen? If you love your daughter you would prevent all this for happening.

So besides Priscilla's family, many people say that Parker pressuered Elvis into marrying. Nothing confirmed though, so only a rumor.

Before marriage Priscilla already had doubts of Elvis being faithful to their relation. And like many naief young girls, she might have thought that marriage would change this. If not, a child would. Obviously none of this helped, nor brought them together for a time longer than a vacation or a weekend in Vegas.

Priscilla married a rock star, but expected Elvis to become/behave like a normal man and husband. Is this truly something that can be expected? I think that by 1970 she knew enough and should have left Elvis. There were no signs that the relation grew to something normal and healthy.

Elvis was the other to blame. I guess that Elvis also vowed to not cheat on her during the ceremony? Elvis was no fool and knew he was cheating on his wife and mother of his daughter. With his lifestyle and unwillingness to change, he deserved no marriage. That's the curse of the rock'n roll stars. You can't have both worlds. A wife either deserves better or has to be satisfied with the fact that her man has sexual relations on the road, but come home to her afterwards. To me, that doesn't sound right though

[cibetty]

I wouldn't say it was only Elvis' or Priscilla's fault, a relationship always depends on two people I think. I'm sure they both made mistakes, but there is a saying it is easy to be smart subsequently. Anna, Albert I liked your replies!! I agree with you both!

[debtdbruno]

First of all, who were to blame that they were married in the first place (besides Elvis and Priscilla)? What parent allows his/her 14 year old daughter to date (in a strange, not native country) to date a superstar and hang out with a bunch of soldiers (stationed thousands of miles from home)? And after Elvis left, they allowed their daughter to keep in contact?! And even more bizarre, the let her be flown in to the US to please the king of Rock 'n Roll and let her grow up there to become his queen? If you love your daughter you would prevent all this for happening.

So besides Priscilla's family, many people say that Parker pressuered Elvis into marrying. Nothing confirmed though, so only a rumor.

Before marriage Priscilla already had doubts of Elvis being faithful to their relation. And like many naief young girls, she might have thought that marriage would change this. If not, a child would. Obviously none of this helped, nor brought them together for a time longer than a vacation or a weekend in Vegas.

Priscilla married a rock star, but expected Elvis to become/behave like a normal man and husband. Is this truly something that can be expected? I think that by 1970 she knew enough and should have left Elvis. There were no signs that the relation grew to something normal and healthy.

Elvis was the other to blame. I guess that Elvis also vowed to not cheat on her during the ceremony? Elvis was no fool and knew he was cheating on his wife and mother of his daughter. With his lifestyle and unwillingness to change, he deserved no marriage. That's the curse of the rock'n roll stars. You can't have both worlds. A wife either deserves better or has to be satisfied with the fact that her man has sexual relations on the road, but come home to her afterwards. To me, that doesn't sound right though

spot on!!!!!!!

[ambkad]

[QUOTE=MissyM;231761]You know what, it really really bothers me that the majority of people think it's mostly Elvis's fault for the demise of the marriage. She wanted the divorce, and he eventually conceded to it.
That women conspired her way into his life from the get go. There are reasons that Elvis wanted people around. And no, it was not to avoid being with her. But it doesn't matter anyway, because, that was the life he choose. She was the one who wanted marriage. But she wanted it on her terms. And boy oh boy she has done a great job of painting a pix. He buys her a house that is small as to not have the guys around much and what does she do, she takes Joe and Joanie with her. She says she wants to be a wife and do his laundry and things and then has him hire her a cook and butler? And plus she has a nanny 24/7! Yah right, she wanted it to be just her, him and Lisa? How many houses did they own and live in. Not all were big Graceland with the guys around 24/7! Elvis was from a very early age used to having family around a lot! But that is so much of it. She didn't like anything that even smelled of his life as a southern, poor man that he carried with him. She never embraced that part of him and what he needed. All she cared about was what she needed. And she needed to make him into this rich, classy, Hollywood star kind of guy. He hated that stuff...it was not him. How can anyone say she loved him that much? You have to love the whole person.
You know when you marry a man as big an entertainer as Elvis there are going to be challenges. It's a tuff life, the focus is on them and their entertaining. It can't be another way. She needed to fit into his life. But she didn't want to. She wanted her own bright star and she has proved that over and over and over! She says she wanted her own life. No she wanted her own fame. And every man that came after she expected to them to build their lives around her. Just like she was not willing to do with Elvis. Cilla doesn't give up what Cilla wants for any man or even her children! And people think she was going to give it up for him. He was her ticket.
And the painful thing to see is people blame him. He trusted her. She never hinted that she wanted to dance and model. He didn't marry Ann because he was smart enough to know that two people pursuing a career like that would not work. And so what does she do, prepare to go out and do it anyway.
He gave her what he could being who he was. But it was never enough. That was the story of his life. He gave, gave and gave to so many people, her, the fans, The Col., and ever some of his friends and still, it was never enough. And I sit her and read people blame him. It bothers me.[/QUOTE

great post

[Diane]

I agree with Missy M's post too. Except for Elvis having such job out of Lisa, the marriage never should have happened.

[Tommy]

We will never know all the true facts about their marriage, being married to a super-star for the both of them must have been very difficult.

[elvislina]

I wouldn't say it was only Elvis' or Priscilla's fault, a relationship always depends on two people I think. I'm sure they both made mistakes, but there is a saying it is easy to be smart subsequently. Anna, Albert I liked your replies!! I agree with you both!

Thanx a lot Betti and Glad you liked my words oh yeah thats true. it is always 2 people in a relationship. so it is always both some need to working on this. but i am sure its not easy all the time and special not easy to be an Elvis Presley.

[elvislina]

We will never know all the true facts about their marriage, being married to a super-star for the both of them must have been very difficult.

I agree with you Tommy. thats really right

[Kajo]

Who do you think deserves most blame for the end of Elvis and Priscilla's marriage....Elvis...or Priscilla...

Sorry but I have to say Elvis...I think he really thought he could be with whoever he wanted or could sleep with anybody he wanted but as long as he come home to Priscilla it was okay...and of course, it takes two to carry on a relationship like that..I hate the excuses of the career ended it. sure that may have played a small role in it but it was farther deep than that. Prscilla imo wanted attention from Elvis whether it be sexually or whatever and he didnt give it to her..of course she was going to go seek that attention from men shes a woman....elvis her husband should have been there to give that attention to her....

I definitely agree with you unchained melody on everything you said.Nothing more to say.Amen to that!

[Tommy]

It's a shame really, I believe we all wanted to see them happy together.

[jasmine123456]

honesty, I don't know,