Who's more at fault for the failure of Elvis' Marriage

[MissyM]

Like most young girls do - they go into a marriage thinking whatever it is they don't like about that person "is surely to change after we're married". I think that's how Priscilla thought!
How many women here would let their husband's best buddies from work LIVE WITH THEM??? How many women here would allow their husband to go roam the country with their buddies and sit home and be happy about it??? Come on, we wouldn't do it - why would she?

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Yes, some women do but that's their mistake and what makes them accountable. She had enough years to see it was not going to change. And it's not like this was as bizarre as people make out. Look at the musical stars of that day and age and even now. They practically or do live with each other. It was what Elvis wanted and needed, so I don't believe that she thought it would change. (and any story to say so comes from her-sorry not a good source) Now, if he all of a sudden did so then that would be a different story. This is why I don't fault her for being upset at the escalation of drug usage.
Maybe, just maybe she really didn't care enough to give up what she thought she could get. She sure didn't seem to mind the status, attention, fame and wealth it brought her. So to me once she knew she could have it with out him and not have to deal with the other stuff, that's when it became a problem. Odd timing.
She made a trade off with marriage fully knowing it was not going to change. And she made him think that that trade off was worth having him and all the extras that went with it.
Should she have expected him to be faithful. Yes, that is in the marriage vows. I doubt, "I'll get rid of the friends in the house" was in the vows. But then we get back to the old arguement, I still say he kept that end of the bargain till trust was broken.

[utmom2008]

Like most young girls do - they go into a marriage thinking whatever it is they don't like about that person "is surely to change after we're married". I think that's how Priscilla thought!
How many women here would let their husband's best buddies from work LIVE WITH THEM??? How many women here would allow their husband to go roam the country with their buddies and sit home and be happy about it??? Come on, we wouldn't do it - why would she?

Awwww come on Gail..we are talking about ELVIS, not Tim. I know you wouldn't put up with it from him, I wouldn't put up with it from Jim either. But, he's NOT ELVIS either.

[Sonny]

I also went for Elvis himself.

Him living like he did, it resulted in that divorce in time.

Like Albert said, all singers, actors, they seem to have that problem. Of not staying married.

[4THEHEART]

there's no marriage on earth that I or anyone else,other than the married couple themselves would know the truth about it..besides I'm not even the last person to talk about marriages since I do not believe in marriage and to force anyone to change her/his lifestyle(this is what couples do each other eventually).. and find it most difficult of two people to live harmonized with each other forever in a shared life..but what I see from where I stand is, Elvis and Priscilla was extremely different characters and I don't get the reason why opposite characters meet and marry.the ending of a relationship in such cases are very natural for me even the best..so can't see a reason to try to find a guilty one..it's just wish there wasn't any hurt feelings and no party who always tries to play the innocent and the victim cause it's tiresome and foolish..
besides, some people have more important roles in life than succeeding a marriage..he was no doubt one of them..

[presley31]

Like most young girls do - they go into a marriage thinking whatever it is they don't like about that person "is surely to change after we're married". I think that's how Priscilla thought!
How many women here would let their husband's best buddies from work LIVE WITH THEM??? How many women here would allow their husband to go roam the country with their buddies and sit home and be happy about it??? Come on, we wouldn't do it - why would she?

agree gail. elvis or not l still wouldn't put up with it and neither should any other woman. yep she seen what it was like but heck can't blame her for trying to have elvis to herself without all the boys around day and night everyday. That would drive me mad. I bet June or dixie and ann wouldn't like all the guys around either if they married elvis.

[Unchained Melody]

They say Elvis never really wanted to get married. I guess it all starts with that.

That's what I have always heard too...maybe as if he was just trying to live up to an image or something..that really wasn't him..

[Unchained Melody]

Who in their right mind leaves Elvis????

I think that was what elvis was probably thinking aswell when she told him she was leaving him for good...I think it hurt his ego more than anything.

[Unchained Melody]

Both of them had their part to play in a marriage that was destined to end.

True words JJ

[Unchained Melody]

Jeez, this is sure to generate some ugly responses!!!!!! Our moderators are going to have to work overtime watching this one!!!!!!

So far so good

[Vany]

both of them.

they both made mistakes during their marriage, but Cilla knew right from the start that Elvis wouldn't change after getting married. I think Cilla soon realized that, or otherwise I don't see a reason why she cheated on him so soon after getting married. Elvis didn't act differently after their wedding.

Cilla knew what she was getting herself into. She knew that it would go on like that and Elvis probably thought she's alright with that since she never complained.

They've never talked about their problems, so I think Elvis didn't see it coming. (break up)

[ehollier]

I think that was what elvis was probably thinking aswell when she told him she was leaving him for good...I think it hurt his ego more than anything.

I've read Red West paraphrasing Elvis saying "She has everything money could buy - cars, homes, an expense account. And she knows that all she has to do is ask, and I'll get her whatever she wants. I can't understand. I love that woman."

No doubt his ego would be hurting. ANY man, no matter who you are or how famous you are, would feel the same way -- I am guessing that this is just a guy thing, right??? But also, maybe Elvis thought since he provided for Priscilla (monetarily), he thought that was his expression of love and his fidelity didn't factor into the equation.

[Unchained Melody]

I've read Red West paraphrasing Elvis saying "She has everything money could buy - cars, homes, an expense account. And she knows that all she has to do is ask, and I'll get her whatever she wants. I can't understand. I love that woman."

No doubt his ego would be hurting. ANY man, no matter who you are or how famous you are, would feel the same way -- I am guessing that this is just a guy thing, right??? But also, maybe Elvis thought since he provided for Priscilla (monetarily), he thought that was his expression of love and his fidelity didn't factor into the equation.

No I think its more of a thing where Elvis always could get any woman he ever wanted and he had millions of women who wanted to be his girlfriend or wife and here was one that was walking away from him and he couldn't understand that I think.....

[john carpenter]

I picked both (surprised?) I am because i really can't stand Priscilla, in other words her actions. It takes two to tango.

[ehollier]

No I think its more of a thing where Elvis always could get any woman he ever wanted and he had millions of women who wanted to be his girlfriend or wife and here was one that was walking away from him and he couldn't understand that I think.....

Yes, that, too, but in some very strange Elvis way, I think he did love her, even with the millions of women.

[Vany]

Yes, that, too, but in some very strange Elvis way, I think he did love her, even with the millions of women.

I totally agree with you.

I think he loved her, you can see that for example in Elvis by the Presleys.
Cilla's parents are telling what he did after the break up. He tried to make her coming back.

He didn't want to lose her after all. He had forgiven her the thing with Mike Stone....he didn't care about that, as long as she'd return. (my opinion)

[Unchained Melody]

Yes, that, too, but in some very strange Elvis way, I think he did love her, even with the millions of women.

I agree with that one too...Nancy Rooks the cook at Graceland said he told her that it hurted him because she was the closest one to him..after his mother passed...

[utmom2008]

No doubt his ego would be hurting. ANY man, no matter who you are or how famous you are, would feel the same way -- I am guessing that this is just a guy thing, right???

I think that's a people thing, male or female. I don't care who you are, if your significant other dumps you for someone else then your ego is going to take a beating. I would think that as a man it was hard for Elvis, since she seemed to pick one of the world's most unattractive men to dump him for.

[Brian]

I see a Priscilla thread has started up again, could a world tour thread soon follow?


regarding Priscilla

Sonny said that when Priscilla left Elvis it really shocked and hurt him to the point where he almost had a nervous breakdown. There was something else I found interesting in that he said Priscilla asked Elvis for a reconciliation after she broke up with Mike Stone but he turned her down

[franny]

I see a Priscilla thread has started up again, could a world tour thread soon follow?

regarding Priscilla

Sonny said that when Priscilla left Elvis it really shocked and hurt him to the point where he almost had a nervous breakdown. There was something else I found interesting in that he said Priscilla asked Elvis for a reconciliation after she broke up with Mike Stone but he turned her down

A world tour thread? Anything is possible!

Brian, where did Sonny say all this, I am curious...

franny

[Brian]

A world tour thread? Anything is possible!

Brian, where did Sonny say all this, I am curious...

franny

His new book