There is nothing wrong with commitment-as long as both people are ready for it. IMO Its nice to have a partner who is there when you need it.
Sure is KPM but I don't feel anyone should commit until it feels absolutely right for them. Too many jump into marriage without thinking and then out again just as fast.
That $250,000 wedding could be money right down the tubes Rosanne....hope not for their sake but I've never been one to care for showy public displays so my simpler wedding, much more intimate, was more to my taste. Too many other areas for me to rather put the money on.
I meant to add KPM to give yourself some credit too. I don't doubt that your wife loved and gave you the necessary support but you also had to love her enough to turn yourself around.
LOL Getlo, there are two sides to a coin. Some marriages and I mean for both men and women that are traps and others love and emotional security.
So Getlo are you saying that a man can't be happy in a marriage? Mine is and he shows me all the time. But I have always given him a lot of freedom. It takes a compromise ya know. Or it would just be one way. You don't think it should just be the man's way do you????
There is never simply black and white.
Marriage works for a lot of people.
Also relationships with man/woman who has kids from previous relationships.
Many women donīt want relationships with men who have children either, thatīs not just a case for men to have this idea.
Other people donīt manage to have relationships anyhow.
People are simply so different, itīs hard to say: this is how it is...
Weddings and marriage are ultimately about the ownership of a woman; the subjugation of women in general. It is not a joining of two people at all; it is the virtual eradication of a woman's identity, whether she takes her man's name or not.
A commitment between two people no longer needs to be ratified by someone speaking words in front of friends and families.
The wedding day is all about the woman: if it was up to any guy, they'd let the women go ahead with all that crap, while the men go somewhere to do something else.
And on top of all that, wedding are tedious affairs. I have refused to go to weddings for the past ten years. I will never attend one again.
Getlo - cute'n'cuddly
"I have learned never to ridicule any man's opinion, however strange it may seem."
Why do you think that? It could be that he just doesn't want to be in a relationship as he enjoys being a free spirit...I know lots of people like that, who don't need marriage, etc.. to feel whole.