Reply With QuotePerhaps because he was an only child. It's hard, i hear people saying how they do wish how they had brotheres and sisters. I could be wrong. It's just my opinion
Elvis always needed people around him. He didn't like to be alone. Even if he was alone upstairs, he knew there were people downstairs. And he did not like to sleep alone so it is said. But I've never really figured out why that was. Any ideas???
Perhaps because he was an only child. It's hard, i hear people saying how they do wish how they had brotheres and sisters. I could be wrong. It's just my opinion
Hmm, well that's a good point.
Like, i have a brother, 25, and a sister, 22, and i am always alone, as they are much older. And i have to have people with me. I can't stand being alone. And plus, i have a lack of confidence. And don't forget, inside Elvis was a shy man. And i am only confident round those i know.
I agree Danielle, I think it was a confidence thing with Elvis - plus I think he was so used to sleeping with his mom, etc. that he missed that closeness.....even though Elvis was the most beloved person in the world and we all worship him - he himself was very unsure of himself and always needed reassuring.......like a little boy......doesn't that just make you want to hug him to pieces???? aawwwwww.......
I think at heart he was probably a very lonely man, loved by millions yes, but lonely just the same. I have read before that when one twin dies, the other twin often feels a void the rest of their life even though they didn't know their twin. Remember the Memphis paper headline?? "A Lonely Life Ends On Elvis Presley Blvd." I always thought that was the saddest of all the "sensational" headlines on the morning of the 17th
Actually, if you read Epicurus, in my opinion, one of the Great Philosophers, to have friends around you, especially living with you, if you have a lot of room, is one of the main keys, to happiness. There was an Epicurun Commune, which is still around. They had a block wall, (now fallen) with the "Keys to Happiness" engraved in red on it, for all to see.
Elvis is very intelligent, before his time, he also came from a family, who embraced everyone, who were kind to everyone, who helped people. There is a lot to learn about kindness, from Mrs Presley, and Elvis.
Not a big stretch, to me, for Elvis to think that way (or something he naturally knew). Remember the videos of the fun they had, the stories.
Kim
He also had problems with sleepwalking that started when he was young....maybe he also wanted someone to be around to keep him from harming himself??
"...You never stood in that man's shoes, or saw things through his eyes, or stood and watched with helpless hands, while the heart inside you dies. So help your brother along the way, no matter where he starts. For the same God that made you made him too...these men with broken hearts." Hank Williams, Sr, as quoted by
I think it was probably loneliness and insecurity but I also think he was used to having a lot of people around especially relatives when growing up.
Diane
I've read several articles just lately about the "absent twin" thing.
That could be a part of it.
When I first started watching Elvis so closely a few years ago; I felt he was a very nervous insecure person. I don't know what caused him to be that way, I just feel that he was.
His dad was taken to jail when he was 3 years old.Appears they really had no stable home as they lived where ever they could while in Tupelo.
I'm aware he walked in his sleep; as did Vernon and Gladys. {so it's been written}
I also read that Gladys sent his cousin to watch him when he first went out on the road.
He was supposed to sleep with him so he could be sure Elvis didn't walk in his sleep and get hurt. Perhaps all of this in his early life just made him more insecure and he needed to feel someone close to him to be able to sleep.
"I have learned never to ridicule any man's opinion, however strange it may seem."
The twin thing is true. I have a friend whose twin was stillborn and says she always feels like something is missing and nothing she tries has been able to fill the void. She is a very outgoing, pretty, and loveable person, but so sad inside.Originally Posted by utmom2008
I think at heart he was probably a very lonely man, loved by millions yes, but lonely just the same. I have read before that when one twin dies, the other twin often feels a void the rest of their life even though they didn't know their twin. Remember the Memphis paper headline?? "A Lonely Life Ends On Elvis Presley Blvd." I always thought that was the saddest of all the "sensational" headlines on the morning of the 17th
...you're moving on the back roads, by the rivers of my memory and for hours you're just gentle on my mind.
I agree w/that.
I to don't like to be alone and if asked why I've no idea, I don't know where it stems from, but I don't like it, I need people around me...and if I don't have people around me I have the TV on 24/7.
I think to perhaps he needed the security of knowing should he need anything, someone was there.
Missy could you ask Billy and see what he says about this? I know he mentioned that he and Jo would sleep w/Elvis in his bed, even in the last years, maybe he's got some insight into this???? It would be fantastic to know his take on it...if he's willing to share that? Thankie
It must have been odd to have Elvis in your bed as a couple....
a sign to me that Elvis really felt very very lonley and into a deep depression.
What a paradoxh...
Loved, worshipped by millions, but left alone and feeling awful lonley...
When you come to think of it, that's the way he died too. Completely alone...
Sad, because he sure was a guy who deserved so much better.
It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
You stated that beautifully!
Your right, it is sad...he had everything, yet really had nothing in the end.And yes for a man who was worshipped by millions, he was lonely, alone and died alone.
Him sleeping in their bed also shows a lot of trust and a lot of love...you'd have to love someone an awful lot to allow that.
true Suzana
It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
Thanks but you said it so much better.
I wonder if near the end, if he wanted all those people there? I've heard that he wasn't crazy about some of the new or younger one's around him, that he missed Joe and Jerry and some of the others, excluding Billy from this, to me Billy is in a whole different category.
yep l agree with you
I'll see if I can ask Billy. But I also want to go back a bit here. When they were all very young they lived in tiny houses. Families were often living togeather in those tiny houses. Kids stacked up in one room. We have a home video of Travis and Lorraines house, and it was so small and so many people living there. Travis was real sick at the time and everyone is visiting him in this tiny bedroom. It was the poverty that forced it. Also families moved togeather. When Gladys and Vernon moved to Memphis, the whole family did. My husbands family, Travis, Johnny, all of them. So families were very connected because of the need to support and survive. Since I posted this obviously I've given it more thought. So I'm thinking along the lines of familiarity. That familiarity seems to what comforted Elvis a lot. Another thing that gives me a clue to it is, when ever someone went somewhere they would all pack up in a car and go. I'm sure it started out because not everyone could afford a car. But look at how Elvis still acted that out. I think in many ways Elvis acted out many of the things that may have no longer been necessary, but on the other hand, a habit. (something he was used to an brought him comfort)
Oh and onother thing that is sort of off topic is this. They always had others living with them. They would take each other in if they were down on their luck or needed a place to stay. Southern to the bone so to speak. It was just their way. So again, I really think if people go back to Elvis's beginnings, there are tons of clues there.
Last edited by MissyM; 11-10-2007 at 07:00 AM.
IMO, and my own experiences. There comes a time when the jealously and pettiness finally has to come to a halt !!
He was loved by millions ,but understood by few.
It was way past time to kick them all out ;which left him alone to us watching. I can only hope he discovered the love just for him as a human being, the man. I think he was beginning to understand that. It seemed to be what he was looking for. He needed the closeness and warmth of a love like that. He just picked the wrong people in his youthful inexperience
I'm not talking about his physical age either.
"I have learned never to ridicule any man's opinion, however strange it may seem."
I guess this is where we will not agree. There are reasons Elvis needed each person HE chose to have close to him. If it was his need, then I do not question it. Somewhere there was something in each person that Elvis found comfort in having around. It was his life, his choice. You know, the outside world could be one of the cruelest places for Elvis. There were bound to be problems when you put that many people in so close a situation. But it is not like Elvis wasn't used to that. We can all stay that Elvis was wrong for having whoever he did have near him, but to me it is like saying he was stupid. I think he did what he needed to do and I won't knock his right to do so.
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