If you had been in Prescillas'place---Mrs.Presley what have you done different how and why?
We know that Cilla left Elvis--would you?
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If l was priscilla l would of fought for my marriage and did everything l could to save anything that was left between us. I would tell the turth about elvis and not making up things as l go, but really show the fans that elvis was turly a loving man and yes had faults but still standing by him matter what he has done. The cheating is the hard part, l would really have a hard time with that, just my opinion.
Very well said.Originally Posted by presley31
As for the cheating, she was no slouch in that dept. either. And it's not like she didn't know about it prior to marrying him. Not that I condone cheating or what he did, I am just saying it was not a surprise to her and it's not like she didn't do it herself.
According to what Cilla has said herself, she was the first one to have an affair. IMO, she lived with him long enough to know how he was before marriage.
No, had I been her, I just never would have married him in the first place.
I believe I would have just ended the marriage before any cheating started ; on either side. That's just my opinion and what I did.
"I have learned never to ridicule any man's opinion, however strange it may seem."
Not every women is cut out to be a Rock and Roll Widow. Marriage is work. Don't forget that Pricilla said that Elvis wouldn't touch her after she had Lisa. (of course that is her saying it and it could be to rationalize the affairs) But no, I know I wouldn't have divorced. But I wouldn't have had affairs either, no matter what. They were togeather a long time yes, but married no, in my eyes. I don't think that was a lot of time to put into a marriage. Hey, I've been down that road with a husband away a lot due to music. I made my own life around it. (which she seemed to be starting to do) She could have too. So I feel it was more about wanting/needing male companionship/sex more than anything else.
I don't think anything turned out as she planned at the time of the divorce. She thought once married it would go a certain way. She tried to make it come true. Remember she wanted to be couple buds with Joe and wife. She wanted to out the MM from Elvis's life, and she wanted him to quit spending so much money. It was not what he wanted. I don't think it was possible for Elvis to change it all. He did change in that he was faithful but that wasn't enough. But like I said, she ended up with what she wanted anyway. Her men, her independance, his money, and no MM.
Then she is either lying, or hopelessly naive ....
Priscilla has never been a widow.
He was faithful to Cilla for only a few months maximum.
Getlo - cute'n'cuddly
I understand R&R Widow terminology. It's a hard life, IMO. Takes a mature person to live that life. She did end up with what she seemed to want.
No one ,IMO, should go into a marriage thinking they can change another.
It just doesn't work.
"I have learned never to ridicule any man's opinion, however strange it may seem."
MissyM, thanks for your insight.
Can't but agree with everything you stated.
Every single word is a confirmation of many things I heard quite some years ago.
If I had been her, well I would have been proud carrying his name and his child.
I would have been faithful to him and talk more to him about my real feelings.
IMO she didn't give that marriage any chance. It ended alreaddy so to speak before it could begin. If you are Mrs Presley, come on you don't even think about cheating...
It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
I really couldn't be with a man who needed a bunch of boys around all the time, l couldn't live like that, maybe priscilla was stronger than me in that mind but l be gone cause l wouldn't be living with them too. The cheating is another thing l wouldn't put up either, you lose all trust. I may love elvis for who he is but not my kind of guy l wouldn't settle down with anybody like that.
But the boys and all the things related to his career (the women, the fans, etc etc)
she knew long before Jen.
She said yes knowing him alreaddy for 7 years. She knew she was not marring a 9 to 5 office clerk or something.
When you become Mrs Presley you know what to expect the good and the bad things.
Life never is perfect
It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
You have to keep in mind that elvis was doing movies, he was home in more often than he was out touring. Its got to be hard and very loney life for the woman who is left at home. I just couldn't handle myself.
Well, I understand that not all women can hack the life. P-31 do you think him cheating on her before marriage ruined any chance they had for a marriage? Or do you think he cheated before she did, in the marriage. I always wonder if it is harder for a man to forgive cheating??? I think it would be interesting to hear from the men around here on this.
I just wouldn't cheat period. I saw what it did to my parents marriage. It was never the same. They tried but eventually it didn't work. Often cheating is a sympom of a bigger problem though. And sometimes it is a symptom of a huge problem the person who does it has. But it is a big hurdle that not all people and/or couples can get over.
Oh and Riley- right on, I have said that so often. Why marry the man???
THat she knew also. He was a singer, he was the biggest name in showbizz.
Pris began something with her dance teacher alreaddy before he was on the road. It was 1968.
I'm not saying that she could have felt insecure and lonley and jealous, this can all be true but like I said
THEN she should have talked more about her feelings.
I once heard Elvis is supposed to be said he was happy and tought she was too and didn't realise she was dying inside all the time.
She should have told him that, not put up a smile and cry inside for help.
I think she cheated because she tought he was cheating but hey that's no good reason and a very bad choice to get attention.
It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
Anyone who forgives cheating in a marriage (or even a committed relationship) is foolish. Once trust is broken, it can never be fully repaired.
If a woman cheated on me, I'd kick her to the curb where she belonged, cut her out of my life like she never existed, and spread the word as to what an unfaithful cow she was.
In that regard, Elvis was a total hypocrite: he expected Cilla and others to stay faithful to him, yet he believed he should be allowed to put it about wherever and with whomever he felt like.
Sad, really.
Getlo - cute'n'cuddly
my parents left eachtogther cause of cheating so l really don't believe its worth it to get married and carry on with someone when you lost that trust you once hard. I think priscilla shouldn't of got married with elvis cause she knew he was out with girls and doing who knows what, but she never trusted him even when they married, so yes l think the marriage was doomed from the start. Priscilla she didn't have to take up a men for a ticket out she should of just said elvis l love you but this isn't working and left.
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Often cheating is a sympom of a bigger problem though. And sometimes it is a symptom of a huge problem the person who does it has.
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Iunderstand quite perfect what you mean here
It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
I feel that Priscilla knew exactly what she was getting into from the beginning but she was determined to be "Mrs. Elvis Presley" then secured her position by having his baby ASAP and didn't let anything stand in her way. She got what she wanted and much much more in the end. Revenge for the cheating Elvis did and whatever else she felt he'd done to her was especially sweet. She had to wait until he died and was lucky that he died young, but she got it. Just my opinion..........
If I had been in her place, I would have left Graceland long before the marriage if I had felt he was as bad as she portrays him with the cheating, the drugs and the MM.
Diane
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she never trusted him even when they married, so yes l think the marriage was doomed from the start. Priscilla she didn't have to take up a men for a ticket out she should of just said elvis l love you but this isn't working and left.
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It's hard NOT to imagine Elvis as perfect; how else could someone be THAT good looking, THAT talented, THAT generous & THAT charismatic
Yep, Cilla was the vulture who stood over Vernon as he was dying and convinced him to change his own will so that Cilla would get her share.
I can understand Vernon's concerns - knowing he was about to cark it - but I know in my heart that Cilla saw it as her last opportunity to save her own skin. She had failed as a non-Presley.
She is absolutely vile, IMO.
Getlo - cute'n'cuddly
She shouldn't of got married peroid cause she did trust him anyway and she didn't want lisa either at that time.
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